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Hope sleepsOn Thursday morning (just 3 days away), I return Hope to the shelter.  She'll have her spay surgery, recover (quickly, for a kitten), and then probably reach the adoption floor on the weekend.  I don't have long to decide whether to adopt her.

Reasons for and against have emotional components, and it's not at all clear which side will win.

  • CUTE!  Hope is watching the cursor move on the screen as I type this sentence.
  • The animal comfort of physical contact.  Hope gives every indication that she'll actually be a "lap cat", unlike T'Reese.  She's already settled onto my lap now, as I near the end of my blog editing session.
  • The relief of ensuring that she doesn't stay in a home where roughhousing is encouraged.  She's prone to biting/kicking (time spent in the wild?).  I've seen what becomes of cats who are indulged as simply being "playful", and I want Hope to avoid that personality.
  • I'd lose any opportunity at Remaking myself, if I commit to another decade+ of time spent responsible feeding another mouth.  That option is "a lot" to give up.  It's my main concern against adopting Hope.
  • Yes, I'd be responsible for feeding another mouth.  I expect economic times ahead to be even worse than now.  I have no idea what to expect long-term from my nerve issues.  Can I keep up with the responsibility?
  • I'd face household warfare as I spend weeks/months negotiating the peace with T'Reese and Hope.  Even now, playful Hope bounds into T'Reese which prompts a very hissy encounter from both.
  • I'd have to maintain a solution (other than declawing) to scratching for the next decade.  Very annoying problem.
Here's a random houseguest of my landlords on the couch.  Everyone is Hope's friend, which is very unlike my scaredy cat T'Reese.

*sigh*  Decisions, decisions.

Date: 2010-11-08 06:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
She is adorable and clearly friendly. I comprehend the decision before you.

What is the worst that could happen if you adopted her? And what is the best?
What is the worst that could happen if you did not adopt her? And what is the best?

Date: 2010-11-08 08:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Sounds like you have some serious deliberation to do. Whatever your decision, I'm sure the outcome will be for the best.

Date: 2010-11-08 09:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm still in the 'pro-adoption' camp. :) I think T'Reese will adapt the more Hope is around.

Date: 2010-11-09 02:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
This is why I will never foster. And I mean it in a good way. ;)

You nursed her to health and socialized her, and now you have to decide to give her away to find a permanent home. With that kind of emotional attachment and knowing she had a hard knock life before coming into your hands, I know I wouldn't be able to give her up. That's why I don't foster. So what I'm going to say is from this lack of experience in fostering. ;)

I agree T'Reese would learn to adapt (they may not be best friends, but she would learn to tolerate the newbie). And I also understand that desire to have a physically lovable pet. Of all my current cats, only one is a snugly lap cat, and that did play a role in my decision to take him. It didn't mean I loved my other cats any less, but I admit that I really wanted a cat that I could pick up and cuddle and sleep with at night, because that was something I didn't get from my current cats. There's nothing wrong with it. Try to keep that in mind.

That being said, you have valid "cons" to adopting her. Yes, she is cute and sounds like she can wrap everyone around her little dew claw, but that's a talent most kittens have. What struck me in your post is that the very first thing you listed as a Con was the ability to Remake yourself. I'm not privy to what that means, but even to an outsider it sounds like it has weight and importance to you. Kitties will come and go, but whatever plans or options you see ahead of yourself are bigger than that. I found an opportunity to grow and it meant letting go of things and people that I loved, but it was the best decision I made. It hasn't been easy but I wouldn't be here if I hadn't made some emotional sacrifices.

The decision is yours, and the important thing is that it's a choice you are satisfied with in the end. :)

Date: 2010-11-09 11:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I say don't do it.

There will be other cats and you may be in a better position to take care of them later on


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